How to Weather Rejection

Writing or any form of art makes us feel vulnerable. So when the inevitable rejection comes, it feels personal. It is hard to separate our creations from our self-worth. I am learning how to weather rejection and take care of my bruised ego.

First, I tell myself that I am not in control of the market or the subjectivity of agents, editors, etc. It is not my fault that this editor or the public at large wants mermaid stories, and I write biographies. I try to match my manuscript with the right agent, but I don't always succeed.

Second, I try to see it as a gift. Rejection forces me to go back and reevaluate my subject matter, my wording, my tone. Maybe something that I can control should be changed.

Third, I give myself some kindness. I have only been at this for a few years; most authors don't have success for eight to ten years. I am a youngun in the publishing world. I need to grow before my time is here. But I believe that it will eventually come.

Fourth, persistence is the answer. Keep on learning, reading, and writing, and success will be realized.

Of course, these feelings only take over after a few days of moping, self-flagellation, doubt, and despair. At least, I eventually get back to sanity!